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September 24, 2007

Cat’s outta the bag…or whatever

Filed under: me — Jana @ 6:38 pm

Well since my secret got leaked earlier than I had hoped, there probably aren’t many of you out there who don’t know…We’re Pregnant!

I wanted to hold off on telling the world via interweb until I had officially been to the doctor and heard the heartbeat and everything.

I am between 8-9 weeks along. The doctor isn’t quite sure of my due date yet because by numbers, I should be 9 and a half weeks along, but the baby is measuring around 8 weeks. So she said my due date would be some time between April 25 and May 5. I will find out in 2 weeks for sure.

All that being said I have never felt more overwhelmed than I do right now. If any of you knew me during my last pregnancy, you may have guessed that I have fallen into the black hole that is morning sickness for my first trimester. I am sorry but for the next couple months I can’t guarantee I will be the best or most fun friend. I am constantly nauseous, and extremely tired all the time. I haven’t thrown up as much this time so far, but it’s still early… and I don’t know how much longer I can gorge myself with food to constantly to keep my blood sugar a max peak. Especially when I hate food and the very thought of it.

I had an interesting time at my Dr. appointment today and it stressed me out just a little. First of all they changed offices since the last time I had an appointment, however they must have forgotten to tell me, or update their information on the internet, or EVER answer their stinking phone. So frazzled as ever I finally found out where the frickin’ office was and got there 20 minutes late. Only to sit down in front of the worlds biggest mom critic. She was a pregnant girl who was seated literally one foot in front of me (because the waiting room was the size of a phone booth). Almost before I sat down she started in on the commentary of my life, and she was not the least bit inhibited on her observations. I was just trying to get situated with all the paperwork and get Carmen under control so I got out my iPhone. I had downloaded a movie onto it for that exact situation so I could keep Carmen entertained. Oh man that was when the barrage of comments really started.

pregnant girl: “oh is that one of those new phones that’s like 500 dollars?”

me: “Umm no, it wasn’t that much”

p. girl: “Hmph…wasn’t that much…” ” It would take me like a year to buy that, You watch next year I am going to have one of those, maybe in 3 years”

I then turned on monsters inc for Carmen to watch.

p.girl: “It has movies on it too”

me: “yes”

p.girl: “Hmph…so spoiled. She should come home and live with me and then she would really see what it’s like. I guess that’s what it’s like when your married, So how is it?”

me: “being married…It’s good” I said with a shrug, What the heck is she getting at?

p.girl: “I wish I was married”

I am totally trying to ignore her at this point because now I have to use my phone to call Lee, and of course Carmen starts throwing a huge fit because I had to take away her movie. I am ready to crawl into a hole and die, because what am I supposed to do? Give her the movie back and reinforce the fact that my child is spoiled or just let her continue on screaming in this tiny waiting room. So as a compromise I told Carmen if she calms down and says please, that I will give her back the movie…Which she does.

p.girl: “Can you be my mom? Man, I sure wish I had her life. I start crying and I get whatever I want. Mom can I climb back up inside you…I’ll say please”

I am just completely acting like I cant hear a word she is saying at this point. I know it is not like me to sit there and put up with crap…But just the way she was, I think she was trying more to be funny than offensive. In my already delicate state I was in no place to start something up with this girl.

It did make me think though…Is Carmen really spoiled? And yes, I do think she is a little bit spoiled, but I really do try to find a balance of giving her things that I never had as a kid, and not spoiling her completely to the point where she is a bad person. I think Carmen is a sweet kid, but she is very active and when we are not in the position were she can run around, I have to think of another way to calm her down…I think that is where the spoiling comes in. Either way I left the office feeling like a big piece.

I hate doctors visits. So much so that it makes pregnancy that much more unbearable for me… now that I am in the midst of my second pregnancy, I want to cry looking forward to all that I know I have to go through again. I am ecstatic to have another baby…it is just getting to that point that scares the crap out of me. I do have a feeling this will be my last child… Although that’s what I thought with Carmen at the time too.  Plus… is it really in the best interest of the world to bring more spoiled brats into society.

If any of my saintly friends want to get extra blessings by watching Carmen during some of my future doctors visits, I will be forever indebted to you.  She really isn’t that bad.



  1. Jana- Carmen is so chill and completely unspoiled! The only time I get to see Carmen is when she’s completely out of her comfort zone, and she’s awesome. You handle it so well too. That is so insane to me that a stranger would make comments like that. By-the-way, I absolutely had a movie on the ipod for B at every doctors appointment last pregnacy. That and suckers…they’re brilliant! I hope you get feeling better!!

    Comment by Melinda — September 24, 2007 @ 10:22 pm

  2. Considering the pg girl at the Dr. One coment from an old grandmother. Consider the source! Now Hip-Knit-Tized is getting anew knitter. Cool keep all of us posted and we have something new to look forward to. I love to knit little socks and things……need patterns?

    Comment by joan debolt — September 25, 2007 @ 6:43 am

  3. Yay!! Congratulations!! Carmen is so beautiful, I can’t wait to see what another brother or sister will look like. And when I am in public with the kids I will bribe them with almost anything. Doesn’t everyone do that?! I’m waiting for the day when its ok to bring the iPod’s to Sacrament Meeting. :) Hope you get feeling better.

    Comment by Linds — September 25, 2007 @ 7:40 am

  4. Congrats to you and your cute family! I hope you start feeling better soon.

    That girl- JERK! Wow.

    Comment by Em — September 25, 2007 @ 8:07 am

  5. Congratulations!! I wish that we lived closer so that we could share these first crappy months together. You are a good mom and do not let what that stupid girl said affect you. She has some nerve! You gotta do what you gotta do and I am not against bribery when it comes to getting Addi to behave. Call me if you need to vent. I know what you are going through.

    Comment by Traci — September 25, 2007 @ 9:36 am

  6. Dude, why didn’t you call me?! I’m officially nominating myself to babysit Carmen from now on whenever you go to the doctor. Let me know when you’re next appointment is and I’ll even come pick her up if needed. No small child is ever well behaved in situations like that. There’s nothing to entertain them and they can’t roam and be themselves. I shudder to think of how Crew might have acted if I’d dared to take him to my doc’s appointments. I think you are doing a terrific job of being a mother and I don’t think Carmen is spoiled at all. We all want to give our kids the world and the fact that she knows how to say please and thank you says a lot. If anything I think that the prego girl was once again hit with the reality of her situation and seeing you in yours made her feel a little bad. You handled the whole thing wonderfully. I would have probably started crying and run out of the room. I hate prego emotions. Wow this was a really long comment!

    Comment by Chantel — September 25, 2007 @ 10:31 am

  7. Jana, that lady was retarded. Carmen is a great kid. I’m sorry being prego sucks so much for you. I’ll watch Carmen anytime – I’d love to have a girl around! Just call – it’s no problem. I only hope people will return the favor when I’m in the same situation… though my 2 crazy boys are a lot more daunting than your little Carmen. Oh well.

    Comment by Tami Nef — September 25, 2007 @ 12:19 pm

  8. jana… why didn’t you hit her? jk but seriously speak up! tell the stupid chick to shut up! oh and i already told you… I WILL WATCH CARMEN WHENEVER.

    Comment by lauren — September 25, 2007 @ 12:31 pm

  9. congrats! Seriously, the second time around kinda sucks! not nearly as exciting, you are sick and trying to care for another child, and you know what lies ahead.

    I am finally out of the sicky part and it is MUCH better. Why don’t you go and beg your doctor for some ZOFRAN. I heard it really helps with the nausea and barfing. Course, by the time I got the prescription it was too late.

    Good luck!

    Comment by ali — September 25, 2007 @ 12:36 pm

  10. Hey Jana… Don’t give any mind to that chick in the doctor’s office. Some people……what an IDIOT!! As the mother of 5 kiddos now, I can say that ALL mothers use positive reinforcement (bribery) to some extent, especially when out in public. I always made sure to have snacks, Leapster or Gameboy when I went to the doctor’s office and if I could find someone to watch my kids while I went, even better. Carmie is absolutely ADORABLE and I wouldn’t even sweat it. You are such an AWESOME Mom and never forget that!!! Some people just don’t know their butts!! Sorry your pregnancies are so yucky. Wish I lived closer so I could help out. The end result is always worth it all!! Congrats, you go girl!!

    Comment by Gwenny — September 25, 2007 @ 2:50 pm

  11. Oh man-between you and Shannon, you have sure run into some weirdos in this world. Seriously–who says stuff like that! It made me angry just reading it. I am seriously half a second from your house….Carmen can come play anytime while you go…in fact, we can have a little nursery over here while I watch Shannon’s kids too for her doctor visits. I think every mother feels that inadequacy every so often—we all feel that–the good part is that you are really aware of what you do and don’t give your kids. Other parents don’t think twice about how giving their kids something will effect them in the long run.

    Comment by Krystal — September 25, 2007 @ 4:58 pm

  12. Man what a lousy way to spend your time waiting to see the Dr. From reading all the above posts …take them up on it..rotate who get’s Carmen when you have an apt. You have several friends that wouldl enjoy some time with her. I’m sending you well wishes during your pregnancy, I remember the fear of getting to that point with my 2nd and I’m so with you. The “not knowing” in the first preg. makes it scary but easier…LOL. As for food…yea I’m there…I truely hope you find a variety of veg and protein that you can enjoy for the next 8ish months.
    Good Luck…………

    Comment by KnittySue — September 26, 2007 @ 1:53 am

  13. I am so excited for you to have another baby, but so sad I found out two days+ after everyone else. He/she will be beautiful. Anyway, I seriously would have decked the girl. She doesn’t have a husband? I am totally shocked!!! Seriously, it was one of those moments you should have been so happy because you have a wonderful husband and great child and one on the way. And you don’t have to feel bad that you could afford to buy something nice, even though she wanted you to. And about the bribery – toddlers don’t understand anything, but bribery when in public. I will watch Carmen any time you need to go to the Dr., but that means you have to drop her off in Utah! Congrats on the baby – let me know when you find out what you are having.

    Comment by Misty — September 26, 2007 @ 1:55 pm

  14. How exciting! Congrats! I’m sorry about the wenchy girl; I think Carmen is an absolute sweetheart. She was so cute at the reunion.

    Comment by Reese — September 26, 2007 @ 7:03 pm

  15. Well you already have my congrats, but congrats again. And I echo all these comments: I already told you to bring carmen over all the time! I practically babysit everyday anyway, it’s never a problem. So I don’t want to hear about you taking her to the Dr. with you EVAR again!

    Love ya

    Comment by Wendy — September 26, 2007 @ 10:42 pm

  16. on my goodness, CONGRATS! i am so excited for you guys.

    i am so sorry you took carmen to the doctors. no child should ever have to go through that. you can always call me, i would love to have a little girl around my house:)

    Comment by debbie — September 28, 2007 @ 8:38 pm

  17. I need to get your clothes back to you – you will be needing them, probably your belly bands sooner than the rest of it. I have it all packed up for you, when can I drop it off?

    Congratulations! I can’t wait to find out if it is a boy or girl!

    Comment by Eve — September 29, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

  18. […] The past few days Posted on September 30, 2007 by Chantel I had the opportunity to host Autumn’s baby shower on Thursday night with the help of my good friends Carli and Casey.  (From left to right in the 2nd picture: Casey, Autumn, Carli and me.)  We went with a fall theme (partly because I wanted an excuse to buy fall decor for my house) and it turned out beautifully!  Lots of oranges, reds and purples.  More guests than I could have hoped for.  TONS of really good food that I’m still enjoying leftovers from.  It made me so happy to see so many show up to celebrate the expected arrival of Autumn’s baby.  It’s always nights like this that get me a little choked up thinking about all the wonderful friends I’ve been blessed with.  We had a fabulous time and I’d do it again in a heartbeat.  Hey Jana… […]

    Pingback by The past few days « Sunshine and Blue Skies — September 30, 2007 @ 1:26 pm

  19. Jana I just live down the street now, so bring Carmen over whenever. Margo would love to have a friend to play with. Even if you just want a nap, bring her over. I think Margo is easier when she has a friend because I dont have to be the constant entertainment. So its a win win situation for both of us.

    Comment by jessica — September 30, 2007 @ 6:18 pm

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